Sounds like your laptop requires the "master" bootcode & firmware. These are the 2.xx series of firmwares...the 4.xx series are for slave bootcode & firmware.
For more info on this, you should visit this page. Liggy has a lot of tools (some home-grown and others from NEC) to switch between master & slave bootcodes and firmwares. To switch it from slave to master bootcode, you will likely need to purchase a slimline IDE adapter (tons of these on eBay) and connect it to a desktop.
http://liggydee.cdfreaks.com/page/6500/ If you don't have a desktop PC around, then you can try the following:
- make a DOS boot floppy with USB support or boot directly to a DOS USB stick
- copy the extracted DOS master (aka Normal ATA) bootcode flasher to the USB stick
- remove your laptop hard drive
- boot to DOS and run the bootcode flasher off the USB stick
- shutdown and reconnect the laptop hard drive
- on boot up the NEC drive will have the light blinking (it's in safe-mode...basically no firmware)
- boot into Windows and flash the firmware using Binflash to any master firmware (2.xx series)
- FWIW, the latest ND-6500 firmware is the Dell 203d (look at the writing strategy dates)